We get many questions from couples who are curious about swingers resorts. Here are some facts about those places.
Types of resorts:
“Adult” resorts do not necessarily mean they are for swingers. It may be just a resort for people taking a vacation without their children.
Nudist resorts: although you can meet some occasional swingers there, most of nudist resorts are for people who just enjoy to be naked in the nature. If your purpose is to find people to engage in sexual activities with, you may be disappointed. We had some embarrassing moments when we approached nude couples who did not have a clue about swinging.
Swingers resorts: they could be for couples-only or for couples and singles. We’ve been to both. Both types of resorts have their own advantages.
Myth: It’s a ‘free for all’, sex everywhere, orgies 24/7.
The Truth: You’d be surprised that even in these places that are dedicated to swinging, manners and etiquette rule. In most places we’ve been to, sexual behavior is not allowed on the beach or on the beach beds.
Myth: People are naked everywhere, all the time.
The Truth: Many of such resorts are clothing-optional, which means that in certain areas you can be nude during the day – on the beach and inside the resort. Typically you are still required to wear some clothes in restaurants at breakfast and lunch. You have to wear evening outfits for dinner, in most places.
As do conventional resorts, swinger resorts offer lots of non-sexual activities that may range from sports to excursions, fishing trips, diving, etc.
The difference between regular resorts and the ones for swingers is that the latter ones have areas where you can have sex with other couples (or singles, if they are allowed). Usually such areas include a hot tub and various playrooms. Some couples organize parties in their rooms.
This is what a day in a swingers resort looks like:
Breakfast (or not, for those sleeping in)
Lazy stay on the beach or silly pool games (often with erotic context). Sports, tours, diving.
Beach, gym, pool, bars.
Around 5pm people start drifting towards the jacuzzi. As they get relaxed with their drinks, they start looking around for potential dates. Chatting, flirting, touching, kissing and groping may start in the water. Often wives would be swapped. Oral sex on the edge of the hot tub is a frequent sight. Little by little all the beds around the jacuzzi are being occupied. It may be two, three or more couples together on a bed. Fresh towels and bed sheets are supplied in abundance.
Privacy: no cameras or cell phones are normally allowed in public areas at swingers resorts. This rule is very strict and is enforced by security. You have to sign a paper upon arrival that you agree to all the privacy rules.
Around 8-9pm people go back to their rooms to get dressed for dinner.
After dinner there is some kind of a live entertainment show. Around 11pm the disco starts. There is usually a theme for every night. Some people really dress up according to the theme, but it is not obligatory. The disco almost always have one or more ‘playrooms’ attached to it, where sex is allowed. Depending on the evening and the mood, it may get really wild and hot in the playrooms, orgies may spontaneously occur too.
Usually there is some kind of a bar that is open 24/7 and serves snacks and fast food.
Despite the openly seductive atmosphere, most people at swingers resorts are very polite and well-mannered. A simple ‘no’ really means NO, no explanations required. Since not every couple can afford to go to a swingers resort (they are relatively expensive), it’s mostly upper middle-class clientele, who take good care of themselves. Hygiene standards are quite high too. We felt very safe in every swingers resort we’ve been to.
Do not expect to have sex with other people every time you want it. As in other swingers places, it is not always easy to find a good match even for casual spontaneous sex. A lot of factors are at play: the mood you or they are in, the looks, the body type, the situation (may be they have already made plans with someone else), etc., etc. However, this is a swingers resort, after all, so you will have some adventures for sure.
All I know is that lots of couples get addicted to their favorite swingers resorts. Many call them their ‘second home’ or ‘paradise on earth’. We know couples who’ve been to the same resort 10, 15 and more times.
Many couples create a legend for their families and friends, to conceal the fact that they go to a swingers resort. Many resorts provide a phone number for a ‘vanilla’ resort where family members can call and find you by room number. Discretion for guests is observed, as a rule.
If you have any more questions about our swingers resorts experience, don’t be shy to ask them (via Comments).