How another couple’s open marriage changed the way I look at sex forever
Until recently, I collapsed sex and love into one intertwined idea. I believed that the way I looked, my ability to perform and my desirability would garner me the love I wanted, which, I hoped, would end in marriage. If anyone had told me when I was seventeen that at forty-five I’d still be confused about sex and relationships, I’d have laughed in their faces.
The older I get and the more my sexual encounters are choice-driven — rather than hormone-driven — the greater my confusion. Add to that religious piety, divorce and attachment syndrome (a belief that I can’t live without a particular individual), I often feel like a tangled and twisted knot impossible to unravel. Read full article: http://www.purpleclover.com/relationships/576-finally-owning-my-bed/